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Spontaneous inspiration rules my writing life (usually). That’s how my best pieces are made. I see something, feel that lovely magic of inspiration, and write. Or, if I can’t write I’ll jot down the idea in my notes.
The last time this happened I was watching Netflix’s Ginny and Georgia with my sister. I had a sudden urge to write a wild YA novel. So, I scribbled down the idea in my notes and got back to watching that…
In celebration of his new EP Wilted, I had a great *virtual* conversation with the homie Will Tha Artist. He’s a rapper and spoken word artist from Toronto, Canada. I first interviewed him two years ago, but now we’re back in action to chat it up about everything that’s changed since — and it’s a lot.
Keep reading to learn more about the concept behind his new EP, his favorite pandemic hobbies, and so much more.
Nia: For the people who don’t know who you are, can you introduce yourself and the music you make?
Will: I go by Will…
I wake up first, my limbs entangled with his. The harmonious hums of the AC unit and his slow breath blanket me in comfort. I look up and realize that I’m lying in bed with, of all people, Jack. I should have known better.
I drag my body out of bed and wrap it in a satin robe.
I walk to the kitchen, start the coffee machine, and grab two mugs from the cabinet. I search my body for the drumming aches alcohol leaves behind, but they’re absent.
I pull out my drawer of condiments, grabbing a handful of half-and-halfs…
I love having a packed schedule. At the end of the day, I feel fulfilled. Wasted time, on the other hand, makes me feel guilty. Because of how capitalism has conditioned me, rest and rejuvenation feel like wasted time.
This week, I want to work on breaking out of that. I want to fit rejuvenation into each day: meditation, journaling, reading.
Sadly, I have to intentionally schedule these activities in. If I leave my body and mind to their own merits, it will eat Hot Cheetos and watch Bad Girls Club all day.
This is a fine schedule for some…
In anticipation of his album The Off Season, J Cole released a mini-documentary entitled: Applying Pressure: The Off-Season Documentary. He discusses many different topics including how fatherhood impacted his creative process and his relationship with comfort. But, the topic that resonated with me was his struggle with self-doubt.
He began the discussion by chatting about how taking a break affected his creative process, “When you don’t write for a while, you wait around for the inspiration. That’s the thing I had to cut out. You can wait forever and nothing’ll ever come.”
Later, he talks about how he began…
I was scrolling on Twitter and saw a thread that changed my life — or at least it made me rethink how I was living.
The tweet, from user @haaniyah_, reads: “Weeks ago I saw this tiktok where this girl said she’s beautiful in the way only women find her beautiful and it’s been on my mind for ages.
Bc I legitimately don’t think I rlly appeal to men that often which is why I’m always surprised when they like me.”
The thread included this TikTok from user @sarahschauer:
The gist of the TikTok is that people can…
When I saw Medium’s email congratulating me on my $500 bonus, I thought it was a scam. I haven’t even earned $500 in the seven months I’ve been on this platform.
But, as I witnessed commotion spread throughout social media, I realized that it was true — and I didn’t have to change the password on my Gmail account. The first thing I thought was: Why me?
Actually — that’s a lie. The first thing that happened was that Wu-Tang Clan’s “C.R.E.A.M” played in my head and I rapped, “Cash rules everything about me, C.R.E.A.M, …